This morning I told Jacob and Skylar to clean the bedrooms. Jacob was to pick up in the room that he and Skylar share, and Skylar was to pick up in JonDavid’s room. Now, we aren’t talking white glove inspection here. I just wanted toys in the toy baskets, books on the bookshelves, shoes in the shoe basket, trash in the trash can, and dirty clothes in the hamper. Is that all fairly logical and straightforward? Yes, to you it is. But you are not 6 or 3.
Jacob was more worried about whether Skylar was working than about what he was doing. Then he would pick up a few things, and want me to come and see how he was doing.
Now, here is a an example of how Skylar did. She came into the kitchen, and here is the conversation we had:
Skylar: Is JonDavid’s room clean now?
me: Are there some toys under the rocking chair to pick up? (I knew that there were, of course)
Skylar: No.
me: Go and check. (Skylar went into the living room and looked under the rocking chair in there.)
me: No, look under the rocking chair in JonDavid’s room.
Skylar: OK. (she looked and came back). No.
me: There are no toys under the rocking chair?
Skylar: No.
I went into the bedroom, and there were at least six toys under it. Assuming that she has just experienced temporary blindness, I pointed and said,”Look right there Skylar…see the toys under the rocking chair?”
Her vision suddenly returns…
Skylar: Ohhhhhhh….
Yes, we had to go through the whole room that way. And this is not the first time we have cleaned bedrooms. I have helped, demonstrated, and explained many times how to pick up and put away things. And yet, I get blank looks when I tell them to pick up in their rooms. I know they are young, but they are amazingly competent at things that they want to do, and amazingly incompetent at cleaning their rooms!
Finally, after…well, a long time…they got the rooms to an acceptable level. I now have fewer hairs on my head, but you can walk across the bedrooms.
I do realize that part of the drama of the morning room cleaning is my fault. I have just not been diligent in allowing time before bed to pick up each night, so the mess builds until it is overwhelming to the kids. We are going to try to do more regular pick-ups (ten-minute tidys) to keep the clutter of toys, books, etc. at bay. We are also working on putting things away when we are finished with them, but that is difficult with a toddler who carries things all over the place and doesn’t understand about putting things away yet. And just so you know, after all the exhausting work I made them do, they got to play outside and enjoy our beautiful weather for quite a while after lunch!